Marriage Is Not An Idol!

Now before we jump into this, let's state what an idol is.

Idol- an image or representation of a god used as an object of worship

Now that this has been established, we must realize that marriage is not to be turned into an idol for you and your spouse. When we think about marriage, we think about a beautiful ceremony with all friends and family, a beautiful ring, a home to build and so much more, but how many of us know that once you become one with your spouse, you truly have to have God first before anything and anyone. Believers of Christ know that marriage is a beautiful covenant made by the Lord and it is to be treated with care. Both the husband and wife have important roles to play in their marriage in order for God's glory to be shown through it. When God has placed you in a godly marriage, it is up to you to fulfill your duties up to His standards and not your own. The world displays that possessive and obsessive behavior is one of the most attractive character traits a partner can have. This is extremely false, the world will make you believe that you can't live without your significant other. Don't get me wrong, of course you can love your spouse, the thing is, once you begin to fall into putting your spouse and marriage before God, that's when things begin to go south.Your spouse and marriage are not gods. Therefore you should not worship them as if they are. Obsessive and possessive behavior should not exist within a godly marriage, your marriage doesn't get you into heaven, your marriage doesn't give you grace and mercy, Christ does! When you truly place God FIRST, that is when everything else is taken care of.

Don't idolize your spouse!

When you become one with your spouse, you should be ready to cover your marriage. As a wife, your prayer mantle is extremely important. Covering your husband in prayer and speaking life into your children is extremely  important for your marriage. There will be nights where your time will be spent going to war with the enemy and calling on the name of Jesus will begin to shift the atmosphere. The thing is, the devil hates marriage and your husband is the head of your household, the enemy will try to get through you in order to take out the head and what happens to a body without a head? It can't function. Now then diving deeper into the role of a wife will come another day, for now we have to address the importance of not idolizing your spouse. When the world says obsess over your spouse you must turn away from that. The world wants you to believe that you can't live without someone or even breathe when apart for a short amount of time. You slowly begin to put your spouse over God by your actions and way of thinking. It's more common than people would like to admit, when you begin to put your spouse over the Lord then you begin an unhealthy streak within your marriage that can not only destroy you but destroy your family as well. When you become one with someone through marriage, they are supposed to help bring you closer to Christ not further away from Him. In marriage, your purpose is to worship and praise God together not worship each other! Your spouse didn't die for your sins or wash you clean of your past. Your spouse can't get you into heaven. The Lord can! Don't fall into putting your spouse above God.

Your identity is in Christ, not your spouse.

When you were born again, you gained a new identity, one that was not of this world but one that is in Christ. When you enter into marriage, it is important to remember that your identity is in Christ and not within your spouse. Yes, you have an important role to fulfill in your marriage, you just can't lose who God has called you to be. When you actually wait on God and marry who you're suppose to marry, He won't pair you with anyone to be unequally yoked. God will place you with someone who you go hand in hand with. You have what they need and vice versa, now when you take things into your own hands, that's a different story. Some marriages are God-ordained while others are tolerated. Your identity in Christ should not be cast to the side when you are married. As wives, it's easy for other people to classify us just as a wife but whether you are an apostle, prophetess, evangelist, etc, your duties to the Kingdom do not get cast to the side and your spouse (who KNOWS who he is in Christ) will remind you of this. Whether you are single or married, you've got work to do for the Kingdom and let's be real here when you said yes to Christ, you said no to having a normal life. When God is first within your life and you know that your identity is in Christ that's when you have nothing to worry about. Yes, tests and trials may come your way but again when God is first, everything works and turns around for your good.

Marriage is a wonderful covenant, there will be times of ups and downs and people thinking that they have the best advice for you and your spouse. Some may even be jealous of your position in the Kingdom on top of you being married. Just know that to worship marriage and your spouse is not the way to go. You were built to worship the true & living God. Don't turn your marriage or spouse into an idol. Instead, worship the Most High together. If someone tries to come into your life and they begin to pull you away from the Lord then it's not worth it. If you're married and your spouse tries to encourage you to work on your relationship with God, at the end of the day it's up to you to decide because we still have free will. Believers of Christ know that once you truly give everything to God, His will becomes your own because you want whatever He wants for you.

As Always: Stay Blessed & Encouraged:)