You Talking Too Much Sis!

Don't let the title of this get to you sis, this also applies to men as well, it's just that for now, at this moment, we've got to focus on the ladies. As women, especially those in the Body of Christ, we are labeled as being the most talkative people and when I say "talkative" I mean GOSSIP! It's a little amusing when you think about it, women can't stand to be called gossipers even though they put themselves in that very position. So sis, be real with yourself while reading through this. Are you stopping ungodly conversations when they begin to form in front of you or are you adding more fuel to the fire and running your mouth? Or maybe you're the silent type that listens in on the gossip and when you go behind closed doors, you're spilling the tea about Sally and her issues on Saturday & playing the innocent sheep on Sunday? Now I'm going to be real on here for you all because a lot of people love to sugar coat real topics in order to avoid people's feelings from getting hurt but uhhhhh we've ALL been there before in some way, shape, form or fashion. Some women are still stuck in gossip, they just rather not admit it because they have a image to maintain. Well that image is easy to see through because in the Body of Christ, the Holy Ghost will reveal when things aren't of God. You might as well just confess to the Lord about what you've done so that you can be free from it and move on. Sadly though, some people KNOW that what they're doing is wrong but they just don't want to stop, why? Because it's easy.

It's Always Easier To Point The Finger. 

What I mean by it being easy is, it can make the flesh feel better by talking about someone else when they go through or are having a hard time getting set free, especially when a connection is formed just because of a mutual dislike for a certain person. Misery loves company. People usually slap that phrase on EVERY group of people they see and they automatically assume that mess is going on, not because they tested the group by the spirit but because it's easy to point the finger. See when gossip starts hopping around from person to person, it always ends up in the hands of two people that you would think would never get along. But the very thing that brought them together was that mutual dislike towards another person/leader/group. The root of gossip is insecurity, people will probably disagree with me but look, I used to be a gossiper when I was in school, it all operates the same no matter who or what the target is. There is always something about the subject/person of discussion that makes the gossipers feel like they'll never have what the other person has. So that insecurity gets pushed to the back of their minds by pleasing the flesh with talking about the subject/person of the discussion. You see, pointing the finger with gossip is easier to them because it gets people's attention off of their own mess that's going on behind closed doors. People don't want to have self reflecting moments because they're afraid of what they might see. It's easier and pleasing to their flesh to point the finger and run their mouths because it makes themselves look & feel better, especially if someone else agrees with them. Then that's when they begin to believe the lies that they tell. Most of the time though, sad but truthful, the very ones that they are talking about are the same ones who are there to lead them into better things and freedom but as soon as correction comes into play, they slip away and return to telling and spreading lies. Most people like to blame the young generation for every little thing that goes wrong. For example: A girl is ungrateful for something that her mother has cooked. "Oh this generation is awful." But here's my thing Betty Sue, who raised the girl in the first place? *insert cricket noises* Yup, that's what I thought.

Gossip Has No Age Limit

In the Body of Christ, a lot of people love pointing the finger at the youth for every little problem that happens, especially when someone is getting delivered. Now don't get me wrong here, younger AND older people gossip!! Now then back to deliverance! Deliverance is a GOOD thing, it shows that whatever is holding an individual back is getting weaker because at the end of the day that individual wants to be completely free. But sadly, when certain people see deliverance going on, instead of rejoicing for their freedom, they rather have secret meet up sessions and talk about what the person must've been doing wrong to get to that point. And the whole time they're talking, they're just opening more and more ungodly doors and cracks in their own lives. The whole time they're talking, they're the ones who's been needing to get delivered from something for a very long time now. Half of the time, some people go through deliverance because of what others have spoken over them, running their mouths too much. Don't you realize that when you call something unholy that IS holy, it will eventually catch up to you? So many people who deal with gossip are the main ones screaming "why haven't I gotten my blessings yet? I go to church and pray" Uh Huh, you pray alright, you praying and speaking death over marriages because you're lonely or maybe even speaking mess about leaders because you believe that you should be in the pulpit getting recognized. When you dip your feet into gossip, you hold yourself back and that tongue of yours gets you in trouble. Gossip does not have an age limit, the same way that sin is sin, it's not rocket science!

Silence Is Agreemet

Now, let's say that you are on the other side of gossip, you don't dwell in it but there's still something wrong. When a conversation is unfolding and you know that it is gossip, what are you doing about it. Pray to the Holy Ghost so that you will get shown how to correct in love if you are lead to do so. Now speaking from experience, people don't like correction, especially when it's calling them out on their own mess. When you know that what's being talked about isn't of God let them know because people really don't understand the amount of backlash that they will get when talking about a certain person, group of people, or leader. They may be running their mouths on Tammy but uhh Tammy is an apostle which means Tammy went through a great deal of suffering for the anointing she carries so of course that whooping from God is gonna tear them apart. Or if they run their mouths about Johnny and Johnny is a true prophet of the Lord, a mouth piece sheesh! I actually fear God, that's why I had to get in the habit of knowing when to pray more and talk less unless there was a time where the Holy Ghost said "shut down that convo." People really don't know who they are putting their mouths on! You never know who God has called and running their mouths can mess up their own blessings. It's happened so many times. People could be talking about the very person that was supposed to bless them but because of that foul tongue, they would miss out on it. Don't let ungodly conversations roam from ear to ear, cut it at the roots and help your brothers and sisters get free. If they want to be free.

Ladies, DO BETTER!!!

If you find yourself to be struggling with gossip, CONFESS & REPENT, get delivered and set free and once you become free, MAINTAIN that freedom. You may have gotten free but if the people you used to gossip with are still the same then get away from them, pray for them, don't fall back into gossiping for the sake of having friends. Half the time, they weren't your friends to begin with, y'all just had that mutual dislike for someone else. Watch how they operate once you've been free, they'll start talking about you but it won't matter because you decided to be pleasing to the Lord instead of being pleasing to your flesh. Be real about how you went through gossip when you get free, the highs and the lows so that you can encourage others on getting free from running their mouths too much. People need to know how you went through something step by step to know that REAL people go through REAL things and they can relate to that and get set free. As we come to a close, remember that there is life and death in the power of YOUR tongue, choose how to use it WISELY!

As Always: Stay Blessed & Encouraged